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As I continue sharing  the journey of dissolving  old belief patterns. We also need to start looking at the shadow sides of our being. Our shadows are often sinister and rejected aspects of our being, so there is explicit undeveloped potential in them. We are not aware of it, because anything that is unconscious is just that. Everyone has a Shadow.  I believe that “talking” with and somehow coming to terms with the Shadow self is essential for self-awareness.

Quantum Physics teaches that nothing is fixed, that there are no limitations, that everything is vibrating Energy.

As per the society norms and rules and as per our culture, environment that we reside within, there are certain energies like anger,hatred,jealousy,manipulation etc., that we are not meant to feel. These are considered bad. From our childhood we learn that we need to be “good” children and we are not supposed to have these bad energies within us. So we learn from a very young age to deny these aspects of ourselves. Alas, my dear friends these energies do not go anywhere but they start to build up in our psyche (subconscious,unconscious) like a volcano waiting to explode and come out. When we deny these aspects we  start projecting them on the outside world. We become enslaved by these energies. As we know that what we resist persists thus in the  same manner these energies termed bad start to master us and rule our lives.

For e.g. we have all experienced mood swings wherein we do not know why all of a sudden we feel that uncontrollable burst of rage that comes out from nowhere either on our friends,spouses or for that matter anybody else whom we are in relation. We do have the choice and the power to dissolve these unconcious repressed energies from our psyche by the shadow process.

My dear friends we need to start looking at our shadow stuff and start the process of accepting and embracing all aspects of ourselves with kindness.Both the perfect as well as the imperfect for only in that process  lies true experience of inner freedom. The process of facing our demons begins with awareness and acceptance  of the demons with kindness.When we face them they  start to loose their power over us.

According to Debbie Ford,author of ” The Dark side of the light chasers”, the Shadow Process gives us access to loving all of ourselves. This deep and profound work teaches us how to love each and every aspect of our humanity. It enables us to embrace both the darkness of our smallest self and the brilliant light of our highest self. Making peace with our dark side is a sacred journey. It demands rigorous honesty, courage and a great deal of compassion. Embracing our shadow delivers us emotional wholeness and the absolute freedom to be who we are. When we are filled with self-love and self-appreciation, we automatically attract the miraculous experience of love and appreciation from others.

Until we make peace with our shadow we will continue to be at war with ourselves and with others too. Until we feel authentic compassion for each and every aspect of ourselves, we will continue to draw forth people and events that will mirror the negative feelings we have about ourselves.Until we take back our power and forgive ourselves for being human we will attract people who push our buttons and reactivate our emotional wounds. And until we find the courage to love ourselves completely, we will never truly be able to experience the love from those around us.

Embracing  the shadow is the greatest gift that each of us can give to ourselves. Each aspect of our shadow helps us in uncovering our true light.

What the Shadow Process provides is a way to love what we have feared, to decode the messages we receive from within and to unleash the power that is hidden within us. When we stop judging yourself and welcome the lessons of the Shadow, only then can we walk in the power of our Shadow.

TIPS TO EMBRACE THE SHADOW AND INTEGRATE THE SHADOW INTO ONENESS.

1.Set the intention to be honest with yourself and journal different aspects of yourself that have been repressed and rejected by you for a long time.

Write down everything all your faults, idiosyncrasies, downfalls, etc. Everything that you think is wrong or bad or needs to be changed about yourself.It should all be listed on the paper. Now read it over aloud. Read it again and again…as many times as it takes for you to not be ashamed, upset, guilty or to have any reaction to the words.

2. Feel the sensations that the above process evokes in your own body. Witness and experience them with kindness. Tolerating all with kindness. Breathe  promising to be with all aspects of your shadow self. Do not abandon,reject,repress,judge or deny them any more.

This starts a process of creating an inner shift  of the  frozen energies held in the shadow. It starts to open and unwind an inner spaciousness inside your own body. You are welcome to place your own hands on your body where you feel discomfort. Remember to stay with it throughout the entire process.

3. Once the energy has been drained off your Shadow qualities, then read the paper over again, but add “I forgive myself and release all judgment over _____. (whatever the quality was.) Do this as many times as is necessary for you to feel an inner unwinding and opening of inner spaciousness.

4. Allow your body to release the judgment and express your newfound freedom. Dance with your Shadow, waltzing with it in your arms like an old lover. Raise energy by dancing to anchor the  shadow unwinding ritual in your reality.

When you’re finished dancing, look into the mirror and tell yourself sincerely how fabulous you are, perceived faults and all.

Have a celebration of cakes and wine and allow your Shadow to integrate into you fully.

Be your whole self from now on.

The above process is simply the beginning. This is a journey that one needs to be committed to practicing on a daily basis for as long as we live here on this Earth. We have trillions and billions of cells in our physical body that carry the hidden aspects in us. Begin today with loving kindness and dedication to doing the shadow process.

Welcome  and honor yourself for doing  the work of inner freedom and liberation as we continue to breathe on Mother Earth.


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