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Each one of us carries deep within our subconscious our historical, ancestral belief patterns through which we begin to view the world. We see ourselves and everyone else through our own history.HIS (ancestral) STORY becomes MY STORY.Each one of us needs to take responsibility to make new choices and move ahead leading to new ways of thinking,acting,being as this is true evolution. We need to be aware and conscious of the choices we make to manifest  a new world. The major issues usually being that of power and control. Every generation past, present and future wants power and control. I am right, you are wrong. It is my way or the high way.This is one of the causes leading to chaos within and around.

I choose to make different choices. I choose to first allow the existence of the history that resides within my genes, my cells with kindness. It is acceptance that allows the historical sea within me to calm. It is like welcoming every guest that enters my mind (thoughts), body (sensations and feelings) with kindness. Tolerating and staying present with each guest that is knocking at my door. For it is only when I stop resisting that it no longer persists. This is a constant spiritual practice that helps and allows me to stay calm, centered and at peace within and around. I begin to watch, observe thus becoming aware and awake in the moment. It helps me to make new choices thus transforming my history and freeing me from the bonds of belief patterns that no longer serve me or my evolving generation. This is what is creation and evolution into a new way of being. This is what brings in softness, tenderness,kindness and compassion. This helps me be open hearted.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful that each one of us choose to commit to our own inner growth and take responsibility to enter the inner world to witness experience and release the inner  drama ,to not react from history. To be who we are in every moment for we are changing. growing and evolving with every breath.

May we sow the seeds of kindness within the trillions and billions and millions of cells in our body to manifest a new world of kindness.

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Personally I know, feel and understand the place of the “DOER” or rather the “OVER- DOER” very well. Being the eldest in my family and having learnt at a very young age to be an over-achiever and be the best. Having had to literally kill my self with all the anxiety, fears and nervousness of having to “DO” all the time, resulted in me being harsh and unkind towards myself. No time for self , no care for self, no compassion for self, no appreciation for self, in fact no awareness of self. What I was doing was continuous self betrayal. I was becoming a “Human Doing” instead of being a “Human Being”. Now,having been through this transformative  journey and being grateful to where I am today which is a place of self kindness, self love, self appreciation, self acceptance of everyone and everything has helped transform me from “TRYING” to “BEING”. I am grateful to every being who has come my way helping me  to become who I am today. I am here today accepting both my perfections as well as my imperfections with kindness.

This is truly my friends  and my dear ones my soul’s longing to help you discover an inner being that is waiting to shift from the human “DOING” towards the eternal light “BEING” that you and me truly are, have always been and will always be now and forever.

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As I continue to be consciously aware awake in the present a new spaciousness opens within me. I also start noticing the shifts in my outer world as the changes happen within. I am more accepting kind and compassionate in my relationships. I am a woman who can be with my own pain with kindness. I am a woman who can be with her own frozen emotions with kindness feeling them freeing them helps to trickle down into the human network on this planet and brings about the change that I long to see in this world. As our beloved father of our nation (India) Mahatma Gandhi said” Be the change that you wish to see in the world” It is not about me being the martyr, the saviour, the leader. It is about me taking responsibility for all aspects of myself.It is about being and following the divine plan. It is about allowing as that brings about the dissolving. It is about staying present and centered in the midst of chaos both within and around.

It is about  K=Kneeling humbly to aspects of self with kindness.

I=Identifying and staying present in the moment.

N=Nurturing self

D=Dawning into the new realization that comes through the entire process.

I am passionate about continuing the self improvement work. Choice is yours. My dear friends what do you wish to choose now?

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Wow!!! What a day!!! Enjoyed celebrating my 45th birthday  yesterday. Had a great time with the best man in my life, my husband and the best son in my world. Missed my elder son though.We were at the Burj Khalifa’s tallest restaurant in the world on the 123rd floor,”The Atmosphere Grill “. I feel that we can choose to be happy no matter what. Staying present is the key and I feel that I am being born with every inhale breath as I die and let go of all that does not serve me anymore with every exhale outbreath. It really makes me filled with gratitude for every human relationship. I am able to learn more aspects of myself as I encounter each relationship with kindness. This includes both the perfect as well as the imperfect relationships. This includes also the loving and hurtful ones. This also includes the kind and mean ones too. As I simply be and witness feel and experience every feeling evoked within myself with kindness, I allow more flow of the light within me. It helps me to light up even the dark places inside me. Wow what a learning journey is this human relationship. I am grateful for turning 45 with every life experience that has made me who I am today.Thanks to each divine being who has come into my life to fine tune me, polish me and awaken me to the truth of who I am. I am here today because of you so a Big” Thank You” and A “Warm Hug”.

May all beings be free from pain and suffering. May I learn and grow with each life experience. May I be aware and awake as much as I am able. May I continue to “BLOG: and “BELONG” into the existence of human reality.

It has really been quite a while since I last wrote. As I sit listening to myself being kind to my own resistance and fears around starting to blog again.I feel the resistance melting into nothingness as I allow it to exist. “ALLOWING IT ALL TO EXIST.” This is an important learning for me. I do not have to fight it, change it, repair it, fix it, push it, perfect it…etc., I can allow it all it be here with kindness. Every aspect of myself has a place to exist just the way it is.It is the “ISNESS” that manifests the “BLISSNESS”. It is the allowing of the “EXISTENCE” that transforms and allows it all to exit into the nothingness. This helps me to stay centered in the present moment with all aspects of myself. I commit to more kindness. I am in gratitude to each being who has helped me understand and come to this state of realization. Infinte Blessings to all. May every being be free from pain and suffering by being with kindness to every aspect of existence.

The entire globe has been touched by the unease that hangs over the economy right now. If we are not struggling financially personally, we know someone who is. If we have not lost our job, we know someone who has lost a job. If our company isn’t struggling to stay afloat, we know another company that is in that situation. A feeling of uncertainty lurks around. From an economic wellness perspective, the entire world is experiencing a reset of how life is organized on the planet. For a great majority of the almost seven billion persons around the world, life is not happy, peaceful, safe nor barely prosperous.

Nobody really knows what is going to happen in the days to come. Even the brightest economists and people who would be considered experts are really just guessing when it comes to what will take place and the fix.

A general dictionary defines recession in many ways like, “A period of an economic contraction, an extended decline in general business activity, a general slump in every business that will last several months or years” and so on. Recession is a time when stock markets go haywire, jobs get cut worldwide, best practices become worst practices, time for blame games, etc. And, not to be left behind, the media and management gurus also go bonkers with their own theories of why things failed, whose heads should roll, who should be lynched, statistical gymnastics, etc.,

During such times you may ask, why on earth do best practices that gave abundance and happiness till now suddenly become worst practices? For this people may say it is because the universe is a random, chaotic, dance of meaningless happenings. This may seem true, because we see several personal disasters that just don’t make sense. But, on an overall scale, underneath all the chaotic occurrences there are hidden reasons and purpose to all things that happen around.

Because the basis of all life is energy, the issues, conditions and realities of one person affects the energy and reality of all others. More importantly for our discussion about an economic recession, the financial situation of the majority must always affect the whole.

Thus it becomes of utmost importance to start “RE-VIEWING” ourselves. We all need to start taking responsibility into looking deeper within our own belief patterns which add to the “collective unconscious”.

Where am I responsible for creating the recession?

The collective unconscious, originally defined by Carl Jung, refers to a segment of the deepest unconscious mind. As opposed to the personal unconscious, which is composed of long-forgotten memories and experiences, the collective unconscious consists of archetypes that represent an inherited set of beliefs and understandings. These archetypes exist to varying degrees in all humans. Many believe that over time, the collective unconscious evolves and changes to incorporate new information that is globally recognized and accepted.

If the financial and economic structure that societies support and use does not serve the majority of human beings in those societies, the structure can exist only as long as mass consciousness begins to shift.

Shift in consciousness requires that we as a majority start to transform our own individual beliefs around money, abundance, worthiness etc.,. We all need to look at the “shadow shit” inside us. We need to review our own thought patterns. The moment a shift in consciousness questioning the validity and authenticity of structures that do not serve the majority occurs, change is afoot.

” Everything is an organic whole. Even a tiny blade of grass affects the sun and the sun affects the little blade of grass.”——OSHO

The 100th monkey principle stems from the story about the Japanese islands. Researches saw one very talented and brilliant young female monkey who learned how to  wash the sand off her potatoes and then she taught this to her young ones.

After a certain number of monkeys (approx.100) had learned to wash their potatoes in the stream, the researchers began to see monkeys on other islands who had no communication with the original batch of monkeys begin to wash their potatoes before eating. This came to be known as the 100th monkey principle.

Similarly as per the above mentioned theory when we humans start taking responsibility of working on ourselves then a concept or belief that is embedded in the morphogenetic field of the Universe starts to shift also.

Morphogenetic fields are basically non-physical blueprints that give birth to forms. According to its founder, the biologist Rupert Sheldrake, a morphogenetic field, is an equivalent to an electromagnetic field that carries information only, not energy, and are available throughout time and space without any loss of intensity after they have been created. Morphogenetic fields are created by the patterns of physical forms. They help guide the formation of later similar systems where a newly forming system “tunes into” a previous system by having within it a “seed” that resonates with a similar seed in the earlier form.

Morphogenetic fields can be used to describe how the human consciousness is shared. The Morphogenetic fields therefore play the main role in the idea that humanity at one point in time will go thru a dramatic collective shift in consciousness.

A shift that will happen when the critical mass for a shift is reached, or in other words, when the current economic recession is but one phase in a series of many re-settings to bring reality into alignment with evolving consciousness.

This process will result in focused, creative energy being directed to imagining then implementing real, practical and out-of-the-box solutions to solve the common problems that affect billions of persons all around the world.

Thus we are the ones who need to create that resonance within us so that it ripples through the globe. Thus shifting the recession consciousness into one that is harmonious, abundant, joyful, and whole.


1. Focus on the solution because what you focus on expands. Thus surrender to the current situation and then make a choice to shift your own reality. Focus on positive thoughts that help in generating money.

2. Stop living in “poverty consciousness” and make a new choice to shift to ” Abundance consciousness”. Remember the principle of the Law of Attraction.”You will attract exactly  what you believe in.

3.Do not allow yourselves to be sucked into the world beliefs of lack and scarcity.  Stop yourselves when you feel negative thought patterns occurring. Stop victimising and getting stuck in history.

4. Raise your inner vibrations through visualising and feeling exactly what you wish to create in your life. Do this all throughout the day for a minimum of  one minute each time. Spread this out to several intervals. Possibly do this as much as 10 times a day.

5. We need to be present and grounded for the Universe to support our deepest desires and assist us in our life’s foremost creation and passion.

There are many techniques for becoming grounded, relaxed, trusting of ourselves, and in the present moment in our bodies, which also lead to building energy within to sustain growing wealth and expansion in our lives.

Remember, ultimately the Universe is synonymous with infinite abundance and we have been created perfect and whole, a part of the abundance present everywhere.

Being in a state of lack does not do anybody or the Universe any good. We are here to share and lead by example by being a shining light!

A great place to start is by celebrating all of our successes and by expressing gratitude at every possible moment for being alive. This will bring more prosperous energy our way.

Initiate self shift to ripple outer shifts.

May we all awaken to a world of abundances at all levels of our being.


CONFUCIUS: “The more you know yourself, the more you forgive yourself.”

The practice of self forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the self and the world. Forgiveness involves letting go and surrender of judgment and condemnation. Forgiveness of yourself or someone else, though not easy, can transform your life. Researchers have recently become interested in studying the effects of being “unforgiving” and being “forgiving”. Evidence is mounting that holding on to grudges and bitterness results in long-term health problems.

Forgiveness, on the other hand, offers numerous benefits: Lower blood pressure, Stress reduction, Less hostility, Better anger management skills, Lower heart rate, Lower risk of alcohol or substance abuse, Fewer depression symptoms, Fewer anxiety symptoms, Reduction in chronic pain, more friendships, healthier relationships, Improved psychological and spiritual well-being.

Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Your mother criticized your parenting skills. Your friend gossiped about you. Your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness and even vengeance.

The energy of “unforgiveness” feels heavy, pressure filled, tight, absolutely no inner space to breathe. This is because we hold on to grudges and resentments and we are collecting the hurtful energies within us as it is extremely difficult to let go and forget.

As I have been suggesting, sharing and offering in my Life series, that those who choose and long for freedom need to make a commitment to start everything with self, first. So again even forgiveness needs to start with self.We need to initiate self forgiveness so that we can start giving freedom to ourselves.

Nature is our true teacher. Everything in nature goes through changes. We know that the seed becomes a plant and then a tree and then bears fruits. We know that a conceived foetus changes to form the human embryo that changes into an infant.  Nothing can stay the same. Everything needs to change as that is the law of the Universe. Every condition can be transmuted   and everything is always changing. Energy cannot be destroyed or created but yes energy can be transmuted. This is the Cosmic law.

In the same way the energy of unforgiveness can be changed into forgiveness only when we make the choice, we all have a free will. We all need to be conscious of what is it that I want to create in my own life? This is being conscious and aware.

We all have the resentful, judgmental personality that resides in us. First and foremost we need to begin by bringing awareness and acceptance to this aspect with kindness. We need to allow it to be present in us and feel it in our bodies with kindness. Attention with intention begins the inner work of transformation. We need to embrace our imperfections and limitations with kindness.

Notice where in your body do you feel the energy of unforgiveness. Be with the energy with kindness. Notice the thoughts present around the unforgiving experience. Breathe and be with the energies with kindness. No judgements, no labels simply being present. Stay with all the feelings that get triggerred from this exercise.

Do the above at your own pace. When it feels uncomfortable stop and be there with yourself. It is important that each one of us begins with self kindness. Bear in mind that you can’t force someone to forgive you. They will need to move to forgiveness in their own time. However you can choose to begin with self. Holding on to resentment against yourself can be just as toxic as holding on to resentment against someone else. Recognize that poor behavior or mistakes don’t make you worthless or bad. Accept the fact that you — like everyone else — aren’t perfect. Accept yourself despite your faults. Admit your mistakes. Instead of dwelling on the injustice and revenge, instead of being angry and bitter, you can move toward a life of peace, compassion, mercy, joy and kindness.

Forgiveness is not about condoning another’s hurtful actions, it is about releasing your negative emotions and perceptions about the painful events. Otherwise you keep yourself chained to those events or people – you keep it alive within you – and you carry it with you where-ever you go.  It is a very heavy burden to carry around and you end up crippling yourself emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically.

To forgive does not mean we agree with or condone inappropriate behavior, it means we are willing to let go, move on or free ourselves from the burden of resentment.


1) A) Journal or write about your feelings, what happened and let it all out. Express yourself.

B) You may also simply speak it all out but remember to stay with the feelings.

2) Take responsibility for your part in the issues, disagreement or problem. It is often helpful to look at how you may do things differently next time, so you can learn from this experience.

3) Consider whether you are even willing to forgive yet. If not I would recommend that you take some steps to work through the underlying feelings you are still carrying around, such as anger, hurt or a myriad of other emotions. When you are unwilling go back to step 1 and repeat until you feel willingness beginning to emerge.

4) Make the decision to forgive anyone involved in the situation. Don’t forget yourself if you need it too. Decide if you need to say or write anything to anyone involved to get your feelings out and be heard. The person you are forgiving does not need to be willing or present for you to complete this process. You can ask an objective person to be on the receiving end if you don’t feel safe or comfortable going to the person who you are upset with. You can visualize that you are speaking to that person when you are speaking to a friend or  an objective listener.

5) Let go! Keep in mind you are choosing to forgive, if you are holding on to a belief that the other person has to do something before you’ll forgive you are choosing to remain stuck. If you find situations re-stimulating the old feelings of hurt you may need to repeat step 1.

Keep in mind this process is not easy but it is very rewarding and can be very freeing. Often times we have to act our way into feeling differently by reminding ourselves that we have chosen forgiveness for a particular situation or problem until we get back to that place of peace!

When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge or embrace forgiveness and move forward. When you don’t practice forgiveness, you may be the one who pays most dearly. By embracing forgiveness, you embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies


It is in giving that we receive, so let’s begin with giving forgiveness so that we receive freedom, peace, joy and infinite vastness and spaciousness.

Freedom to all.

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